"Antenatal ward treatment"

I am going to be a solo mum by choice via sperm donor/IVF. A few weeks  ago I went to the antenatal assessment unit due to having reduced movements. The staff there were wonderful and reassuring and I felt well looked after, however they were concerned about my baby’s heart rate so I was admitted to Nettleham Ward overnight for monitoring. The 2 midwives I had there were lovely, though I felt slightly abandoned (I imagine they were super busy and so through no fault of their own). 

During the evening my mum (birth partner) came back to the ward to bring me some things. This was well within the visiting times for birth partners (by several hours) but she was not allowed onto the ward despite staff knowing my situation and that she would be my partner during birth. Another midwife was sat at the nurses station and shouted asking why hadn't I got a proper partner, which I heard from my bed in the bay (I'm sure this comment was definitely about me as I marched straight to the desk and they quickly pedalled-back on the comment). Thankfully my midwife (who had actually finished her shift) got my mum onto the ward and explained (again) to staff who she was. Up until this point I felt reassured and well looked after; now I am dreading the pre and post care of my and my baby (I understand the labour ward staff are wonderful), and I will be declining an induction for this reason as I do not want to be on the antenatal ward any longer than I have to. 

This is the first person who has made me feel ashamed of my decision to have this baby as a solo mum and for not having a “partner”, which is disgusting.  This one midwife (and another ward staff member who was just abysmally rude throughout) have ruined my experience of this ward and have made me very anxious and worried about going back and I now wish I was having my baby elsewhere.