We found out I had a missed miscarriage at a routine scan. As this was my second miscarriage we decided to go through the surgical option of miscarriage. Whilst in the hospital awaiting the operation and going through all the forms with various doctors not one mentioned what would happen to our baby.
It was at the bottom of the document I signed agreeing to the surgical procedure and noting the risks, but nobody said what would happen afterwards to our baby. I only quickly scanned the document so I can’t remember exactly.
I think doctors need to “stop and think”. We were going through such a stressful time that someone needed to say what was going to happen to our baby after the operation and whether we had the option to take our baby home. I remember the options from our first miscarriage, but it felt to us that since we’d already been through it they didn’t need to tell us what was going to happen with this baby, but it would be nice to be asked.
It’s taken me a long time to decide to write this, but I think it needs to be reminded to doctors that our baby was very much wanted and we wanted to know it was looked after afterwards. We want to remind doctors doing this procedure that it’s not just about the woman, but also her partner and about their baby.
"Surgical management of miscarriage"
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