At the time I didn't say anything because I was so overwhelmed but looking back I find the care I received after giving birth to be much less supportive than everything else up until that point.
After my emergency c section, I wanted to have skin to skin contact with my baby to make up for not having a chance to touch him when he was born. I had to call a nurse over to help me to take away my babys blankets to support this, but I don't think anyone would have approached me to help if I hadn't asked. I also had to ask for help with breastfeeding, and although someone helped me in that moment, no one came to see how I was doing with it over the next two days I was in hospital.
Instead I relied on my husband bringing syringes of colostrum that I'd harvested prior to the birth to help me feel confident my baby was getting some nutrition. Overall, I felt like I was 'left to it' on the ward, and as it was my first baby I felt very unsure of myself. Even taking him out of his blanket and dressing him for the first time felt like a big deal to me, but again no one was around to help.
It felt like I only saw nurses when I had to have medication or my blood pressure taken. As I'd had an emergency c section, I was on morphine and really didn't feel confident in my ability to look after my baby. I remember going to the toilet to change a bloody pad and hearing him cry, and hobbling over in a panic, just feeling very vulnerable. I was desperate to get home to the support of my husband and family, and I think this experience set me off on a path of self doubt in the early days of motherhood. I think this could have been different if there was capacity to have someone help me in those early hours and days with the basics of caring for my baby. It would have felt like a positive learning experience instead of a pressure at a time of recovery.
"Ward care after birth"
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