"This is a double illness"

About: Coventry And Warwickshire Partnership NHS Trust / Older people's mental health

(as other),

I am 84, my wife 83 who I'm slowly losing to the illness.

I know the road we are going down will be very difficult but you should hear how it is affecting me. It is the very little things that I miss, we have been 60 years married, and have made fun, nonsense, and laughed at each other all through that time.

But now she takes everything serious you cannot make a quip any more. Everything is the gospel, you have to bite your tongue before saying anything and it slowly destroys you as well.

This is a double illness - the patient and carer, and so many people don't know that.

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Response from Julia Williams, Assistant Director - Experience & Quality, Coventry & Warwickshire Partnership Trust

Dear Lammie,

Many thanks for taking the time and trouble to share your moving account and experiences as a Carer. This story highlights the some of the difficulties encountered by Carers and how the illness of one, becomes the illness of all involved.

Kind Regards


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