Due to recent realisation that my short term memory was in decline and because I have epilepsy I asked to be referred for memory test. I should add that although at the end i was asked to fill in a questionnaire I'd been in the hospital for a gruelling hour and a half and I didnt fill it in correctly as i just wanted to leave. The Dr I saw clearly didnt understand the word empathy. I'm only 37, and having this kind of test at my age is very hard to get head around. I cried at a few points and not once did she offer me a comforting support. It felt robotic. Worse still she didnt offer me any words of reassurance, next steps or ask me if I had any questions. As I said, cos I was in a state I didnt even think of saying much apart from "it's not dementia then" she didnt bother saying much else. I felt very much like an animal. She did explain the tests but in a very clinical way like I was just a tick box exercise for her. There were some positives; she told me how to keep challenging myself to help things, such as reading and trying to get that job. However when I explained to her that I've had anxiety and can she recommend any confidence classes she was quick to say she couldn't help and didnt even give me a number to call.
I really think a robot would have had more empathy. I woke up in the middle of the night worrying senseless about my future, she even told me that I shouldn't look for a job where I need to multi task as I'd get muddled and I should only look for a job in something like customer service!! What a cheek!! She basically had very little positive to say. I'm left feeling really sad and useless, I didnt feel like that before I went in. It feels like shes chipped off the confidence I had regained through what has been a real anxious year for me.
"Dr- no empathy whilst carrying out memory test..."
About: Queen's Hospital (Romford) Queen's Hospital (Romford) Romford RM7 0AG
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