About: Inclusion Matters Wirral Inclusion Matters Wirral CH41 1EL
Posted by hope15 (as ),
After waiting nearly 12 months and managing with the support of anti depressants I hit a crisis point in my life. I contacted IM explained my situation they agreed that I needed supporting quickly.
In the beginning I found the sessions to be extremely emotional and draining, as the discussions brought back painful memories of my own past experiences and how they related to me dealing with my daughter's traumatic experience, how this had affected her and myself.
I have had counselling in past previous years so was a little apprehensive. My therapist was amazing! ! ! She was honest about how she could help me help myself. That this was not a cure or a quick fix but a way of finding strategies, coping mechanisms and acceptance that not ever thing bad that happens is not my fault, that I am not a "jinx" and not that magically powerful that my thoughts could affect my daughters own experiences/behaviours/decisions.
It was hard doing some of the "homework". Some I found more relevant than other parts but it all played it's part in helping me realise/accept that I cannot control my daughters life. That control was not a guarantee that nothing bad would happen to her and that I used this as excuse to blame myself when something negative happened.
It was really hard putting this into practice, but it genuinely got easier each time I did. I still "go ther" in my head, but only for a moment or two, then I mindfully stop put my coping mechanisms into practice and move on. I am calmer, I still worry as a typical parent does and I am in the best place I have ever been in in over 40 years.
This service, my therapist has given me a better, happier life. I am growing very slowly in belief and confidence I my work environment. I am a better parent/wife to the point the my family are still trying to get used to how much Ive changed
I cannot speak too highly of the the amazing support this service has given me. I can whole heartedly recommend this service to anyone who needs and is prepared to let them help you to help yourself....they are not the answer...you are....but. they will support you in finding your own strategies and coping mechanisms to improve your way of thinking/life.