"Arrogant consultant"

I was diagnosed with HIV after my partner was admitted to this ward- ok,

It happens,

I was mostly 'okay' though bewildered at a few problems with their appointments but it was tolerable.

I met the unit head consultant on one appointment and they discussed with me about telling everyone and I told the consultant that Ive 'known' 5 people in 18 years and that I had already told the two or three I have 'Known' since my last HIV test, I told the consultant that I had done so immediately.

I saw the same consultant a few times every couple of months and they kept repeating this discussion- recommending I go to the GUM clinic to do partner tracing- each time I told the consultant its been done, by me and several months ago.

I made it quite clear that this seemed to be forced upon me and reiterated very clearly that I have addressed all that a responsible person should do.

I thought this was a language problem or simple aloofness. I was told it is their pathway and that I can follow it or they will transfer me to Sunderland.

What really angered me beyond words was when i was approached by a family member working in another 'healthcare unit' in Newcastle stating that the same consultant had written to them telling them to run partner tracing and call me (which they did at work and sent a letter to my old home address) I complained (note to reader: don't waste your time complaining)

Very long story short-

I decided to withdraw from treatment and seek my own options- I wrote confirming my intent and saying that I needed to know the details of the condition (there are a number of variants or something)

My letter was acknowledged but I never- ever got a reply.

I sent polite reminders but I was not told a single detail about this condition.

So since 2013 I have had no treatment at all! -

Save your time, patience, dignity and your life- find somewhere else.