"Helped me understand it’s not my fault and I should be grateful that I’m not worthless"

About: Inclusion Matters Liverpool

(as the patient),

Five years ago I was diagnosed with non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma. Then countless chemotherapy, two bone marrow transplants and one operation.

The worst thing through this ordeal was that it cost me my job and self-respect, because I could no longer provide for my family. My wife took up the mantel of bread winner and provider. It put great strain on her. I know that I shouldn’t complain for I am still here, when so many aren’t.

But last week a cousin of mine died of cancer aged 51, and I didn’t even know he had it but he suffered for some time I believe. I’m two years older than him. Sometimes you feel a sense of guilt that I am still here, although I’m very grateful to be. His funeral is soon.

I suppose life is like that. God knows why but it just seems to work out that way. Inclusion Matters helped to make me understand that it’s not my fault that I should be grateful that I’m not worthless and that I still have something to offer.

I thank them a lot for that.

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Response from Heather Clarke, Manager, Inclusion Matters

Dear Dutch24

Thank you for taking the time to send this feedback, it is much appreciated.

I am so sorry that you have clearly been through an extremely difficult period in your life. I am particularly pleased however, to hear that your therapist was able to help you move forwards in realising your self worth and recognising what you have to offer as this can be so hard to keep hold of when you are going through such a traumatic time.

I really hope that your progress continues and I wish you well for the future.

Best wishes


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