"Helped bring us closer together again"

I was referred into the Jarman Centre psycho-sexual service when I went to a clinic for my achy legs, and one of the nurses at the clinic said, “Do you have any problems with erection? ” And I thought about it, because I had sort of denied it for a couple of years, and I just said yes. And she said “do you want to take this leaflet? And I took it, and I said to my wife what do you think about this? For about two years, it has been gradually been getting worse and worse, and less often. And I put it down to old age and my wife kept saying “you don’t want me anymore” and so eventually I thought I will go to the clinic

We had thought something was not right for some time and at first I went to my GP but that was not a very good experience. I tried to broach the subject that I was having problems with sustaining erections, and he just threw the most cruddy, photocopied piece of literature at me and said, “oh well, just read this” and that was it. I was quite surprised, because I have always rated him as a good doctor that I could go to with other problems and talk about, and he was fantastic. And then he just seemed quite embarrassed and said “here read that”.

My wife was getting more and more worried about our relationship and that I no longer loved her. So we were pleased that the leg clinic was able to refer me to this service. The problem was the veins, the traffic of blood within the veins wasn’t working sufficiently. The nurse at the leg clinic gave me the literature for the psycho-sexual health service. We had no comprehension that such a place existed. The only solution we could think of was Viagra.

The clinic was excellent in providing the information we needed. We were given some real choices and quality information that we could follow. The therapist made it easy for us to discuss the condition and make the right decision around medication which we had confidence in. We were given time to make the right set of choices which has helped bring us closer together again.

We both would definitely recommend this service and urge anyone struggling with this condition to seek professional help and use this service.