It’s just awful, I really feel like there should be more done for women that go through a late loss and I find it so hard that it is still considered a miscarriage at 15+4 days when we are actually having to also go through the process of delivering our babies.
Really long story short -
I woke up one weekend in the morning with blood and discharge and the EPU did an internal examination and said I may have a tiny polyp or a UTI and that could be causing the bleeding - if it got worse to go back.
On the Monday whilst in a shop with my husband and son I felt wet...as if I was passing a clot, went to the toilet and thicker discharge was there along with my waters going and not stopping. Came home and tried to Change pads but it wouldn’t stop and was literally soaking them. Went back to EPU where a member of staff that was printing my paperwork took their mask off to remove a stick staple from it with their mouth before handing it back to me. Again there was blood present and they did another internal and sent me home. If it got worse I was again to come back but said they didn’t know what the issue and I could have had a weak bladder ? was and booked me in for a scan to return the following afternoon. By this time my perfectly round bump had literally deflated. ? I was told I would be referred to fetal medicine but they didn’t run a clinic on a Wednesday so I would get a call about that on the Thursday.
On the Tuesday I go to the scan and am told I have lost a lot of fluid (tried telling everyone that) and that the placenta could usually produce more it would just depend it I kept it in or not. There was an issue with the baby’s stomach/bladder not taking in/expelling the fluid as it should but they said that my mind could be put at ease as the really good sign is your baby has a strong heartbeat - in the 150s. Ready to send me home again I was asked if I was still bleeding - I was so was sent back up to EPU where they tried to send me away again until the Thursday - Fetal Medicine.
While waiting i noticed my paperwork had the baby’s heartbeat recorded at 112bmp and 'no fetal movement' yet I was told in the 150s and it wasn’t even mentioned that he was no longer moving. ? Another internal exam and sent home as everything seemed fine and I needed to wait for the call from Fetal Medicine. On the Wednesday evening while watching a film with my son I fall asleep on the sofa, wake up needing the toilet and when I go I feel again like I need to pass something. This time i couldn’t pass it and put my hand between my legs.....there were my babies little legs hanging out of me. No matter how hard I tried I couldn’t pass the rest of him. I had to lay on my bed waiting for the ambulance with my boy hanging out of me.
When we get to the EPU (again) the paramedic had to go and find the staff even though we had been buzzed onto the ward they just sat in the office until he went to get them - a few words were exchanged between them.
I was put into a side bed but needed the bathroom again. Was given a bedpan which I delivered the rest of my son into in the toilet. I screamed for help a member of staff came over and said they needed to go get something to cut and clip the cord.
Then I was helped back into the side bed and told I had to deliver the placenta. 7 hours later prepped for theatre (But then a medical emergency took place - so next step was theatre on the labour ward) on gas and air, an IV drip and oral tablets to assist with natural delivery and another 3 internal examinations I managed to deliver the placenta with help of the consultant pulling it out. Then there was talks of blood loss and transfusions etc. Even though I know I was going through it.....I definitely would remember being offered a post mortem and don’t believe I received the best care over the 4 days. I feel like they could have done more to listen to my concerns each time and deal with them differently maybe I could of had a different outcome or could have lost my boy with a little more dignity instead of having to remember him the way I do which I’m struggling with emotionally and mentally and breakdown at least twice a day. ? I have written to PALs and the Hospital complaints manager and now feel that I was overlooked again with incorrect care in not being having post mortem options even discussed.
My heart hearts so much.
"Lack of care leading up to my late miscarriage"
About: University Hospital (Coventry) / Maternity University Hospital (Coventry) Maternity CV2 2DX
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