"Miscarriage"

So I’ve experienced two miscarriages, first time the staff in the early pregnancy ward were amazing, I stayed for three nights due to possibilities of a molar pregnancy but the team caring for me were really Super.

My second miscarriage I had a missed miscarriage, had the smallest of spotting once and phoned because I was scared I was miscarrying again, my dad came with me and waited in the waiting room whilst I was scanned, the person scanning me was not pleasant at all, did not speak to me to introduce themselves and I knew as soon as I seen the screen I was miscarrying and it was confirmed there was no heartbeat, I sobbed so hard I could not breathe but they proceeded to tell me to go to the bathroom and empty my bladder for an internal scan, I wept and wept all the way through it, my whole body shook with shock and hurt, this staff member showed me no sympathy which I felt so unprofessional not to even hear the words “I’m sorry” I then had to wait almost two weeks carrying my lifeless baby until I could get booked in for a d & c. I was sent to day surgery for this which I hated, I did not get the privacy of my own room going through such a difficult time, I was in beside others who were in for all different kinds of surgeries. The nurses in the day unit sat at the nurses station talking about nights out, weddings, diet plans. These nurses were not expertise in dealing with women who miscarry and left me to it. 

This time round I started brown spotting at around 5 weeks and my HCG levels were very high that EPU were worried I was having an ectopic pregnancy as there was nothing to be seen on the scan, I returned two weeks later to see a baby in the screen and a heartbeat however there was an area of bleeding which explained all my spotting (brown) not fresh blood. I was so pleased everything was ok however fast forward to two weeks I had a heavy bleed which was still old blood but I was still concerned so called EPU who booked me for a scan the next day, all was fine and the area of bleeding was away in the scan and I was measuring at 8 weeks 4 Days. I had this scan last Friday then the spotting disappeared however on Saturday I started to get niggles, I went to the toilet and my toilet was full of fresh blood, i put a pad on and could feel the blood leaving my body, went to EPU and my cervix was closed, dr could not see where the bleeding was coming from and did not order a repeat scan, I was advised to call back if the bleeding didn’t stop in two days, so Monday I started clotting really bad so called back to be told I wouldn’t be offered another scan and my bleeding isn’t bad enough that Im filling a pad every hour. I woke up this morning and I was soaked right through my pad and pyjamas and was very sore, I called again and was told I’m still not passing enough blood and the consultant would not do another scan.

I was crying by this point with frustration, for my own sanity, why can they not understand i am telling them something is wrong constantly bleeding fresh blood and cramping, the nurse spoke to the consultant again however I still did not get anywhere. I called patient relations to make a complaint and a lovely person phoned me back however they confirmed I would not be scanned. I am so disappointed that I am having to still attend my first midwife appointment not knowing if I’m still pregnant and will have to wait a further 3 weeks for my 12 week scan. I have had to get my doctor to sign me off work because my anxiety is through the roof not knowing if I’m miscarrying again.

I have already had two miscarriages so you would think the right thing to do was scan me and at least put my mind at ease so I can go back to my life, instead I am at home in my bed all day scared of what I’m about to Face next. I have told EPU numerous times this bleeding is different and I haven’t experienced this before but no one seems to be listening to me and not caring about what I am going through. I truly am disgusted in how I’m being treated and if I do make it to my 12 week scan and find out I have miscarried, I will take this all the way with a formal complaint for not being listened. It’s not humane to put someone through this.