"My parents care"

I look after my parents in their 90s, dad with dementia and aphasia, mum has dementia. Currently in respite to assess their level of care needs, both are in need of 24/7 care as it is no longer safe for them to be left on their own and now is a health and safety issue. I have been looking after them on my own for a very long time but things have gotten to a stage that I am not physically or mentally able to do what's needed.

They had social care workers going in to wash and dress my mum since March; since starting she is lucky if she has had a handful of showers even though this was one of the main reasons we have them coming in as my physical health doesn't allow me to do this as she needs support. They also come in and ask my mum if she has been washed instead of just saying we are in to give you a wash and get you dressed; my mum gets up quite a lot through the night and dresses herself with the help from my poor dad who can't talk to her to get her to go back to bed and also is not able to tell carers what she had done even though I have told them not to ask my dad these questions.

They also started doing her medication twice a day. As I do nights to get them ready for bed, I  have been asked on more than one occasion how they administered her medication and this did not give me much confidence in them doing this. The care folder hasn't even been fully updated and an advocacy woman  has emailed them about  this weeks ago with no response. Also got a letter to both parents thanking them for filling out a questionnaire that I can definitely say never happened. Now I have social work wanting to send them home even though its no longer safe for them.

Sorry for the long rant but I am no longer capable of looking after them.