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Coping with a husband with bpd ptsd, adhd,autism and severe...

Posted By lyraec99

"Coping with a husband with bpd ptsd, adhd,autism and severe anxiety ,"

About: Adult Mental Health Community / Personality Disorder Hub

(as a carer),

Immersive Reader

I have been married to my husband for forty years and he has had the above conditions thoughout that time he has been a service user of secondary mental health care all of that time.

There have been many times I have been at breaking point due to the constant stress his conditions cause within the family. I have recently been allocated support from the carers support team. The lady I see is fantastic as she has family members of her own with the same conditions and totally gets my situation.

I see her at home on a monthly basis and can contact her whenever I am struggling. She gives me information on other help I am entitled to and is there if I need her in a crisis.

I would recommend to any one who is struggling to cope to ask for this support. I no longer feel that I am totally alone and this has also had a positive impact on my own mental health.

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Response from Drew Szmit, Lived Experience Development Lead, Personality Disorder Hub, Nottinghamshire Healthcare NHS Foundation Trust 2 weeks ago
Drew Szmit
Lived Experience Development Lead, Personality Disorder Hub,
Nottinghamshire Healthcare NHS Foundation Trust

I recruit, develop, support and manage our lived experience workers on the "personality disorder" pathway, and I develop, evaluate and promote our 2 and 1-day "personality disorder" awareness training for internal and external colleagues. I also work closely with colleagues across multiple organisations to promote, develop and embed the principles of recovery orientated practice and support the development and ongoing delivery of peer support and lived experience practice provisions.

Submitted on 27/05/2025 at 09:47
Published on Care Opinion at 09:53

Immersive Reader

Thank you for this lovely feedback. It is very much appreciated.

As a service, we understand how challenging it can be for carers to support a loved one with complex needs. That's why we recruit carers with similar lived experience, so they can connect with others and truly understand their experiences. This often helps to support carers, such as yourself, to manage stress more effectively and improve their own mental health - as you have described.

I hope you continue to benefit from the support of our carer peer support worker, and I hope part of the journey will include you finding a better balance between your care responsibilities and your own needs.

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