"Recurring Miscarriages"

I have suffered 20 miscarriage over the last 8 years. I can not explain how disappointed I am with the service I have received over the last 7 years, I was told by the clinician that I should not even be trying for a baby at the weight I was and that my miscarriages were due to weight. All tests that were done came back with no evidence as to why this had happened but they told me they would not do anything or give me anything due to my weight.

After having around 16 miscarriages and at my heaviest I met with them and they agreed to give me medications I had asked for years and years (why was I told due to BMI they would not give it, then at my heaviest prescribe me it?) I have since lost over 8 stone and BMI in a healthy range and have now had another miscarriage. I called and asked to have an appointment to see what I can do moving forward as I have now lost weight and in fact it is clearly not weight related..

The person I have been seeing is a miscarriage specialist so you would assume they would want to do whatever they could to support me, yet when I asked to see them to discuss what tests I have actually had over the last 8 years and to discuss if there was anything else that could be done for me now I have lost weight, I was told that they would not see me and they have already gone above and beyond for me.. all I have ever been prescribed was 2 medications and on my last pregnancy I was told I would not get one of these unless I was actively bleeding...when i started to bleed I called and was told I couldn’t get it anymore and rules had changed. Had I been under Glasgow I would get it but South Lanarkshire don’t offer it anymore and so I would not be getting it.

Why, when i read stories online, do i see miscarriage specialists doing everything they can and trying a drug they think could help to give the patient a chance to carry a baby yet mine won’t even see me? They finished by saying they would refer me for IVF when I loose weight.. if they seen me they would see that I have lost weight, and I told them of this when I was last pregnant so they were well aware. I find it disgusting that they won’t even see me and seem to have no interest in trying to help me. They certainly have not gone “above and beyond”.

When I called Wishaw to ask for a second opinion I was told I had to go private for second opinion. One of the 20 pregnancies actually went to 23 + 5 days and Wishaw told me I was peeing myself when I thought my waters had broken at 17 weeks and turned me away on 4 occasions, turned out they had actually broken and I delivered my little girl at 23+5 days who sadly passed away after a few hours due to being so premature.