Miscarried sadly during covid October 2020. Referred to Altnagelvin to sit alone with pregnant women to be told I was going to miscarry and to either have the surgery or take tablet form. Super cold, super traumatic.
First set of tablets didn't work so had to do it all over again. Second set immediately made me violently ill all over the poor nurse attending with me (who was my absolute saviour throughout this). Two of the nurses were so kind which was too much to be said about the first doctor I had.
There's blunt and there's empathy. My baby died, as were all my hopes and dreams in that moment like be kind or human. It isn't difficult. Again all told while I was alone.
I had screamed for my partner the agony I was in... but again.. Covid. A car park was his location. Each and every time, I was sat with pregnant patients successfully carrying and he was sat with expecting fathers in a car park. Make it make sense.
Fast forward 2 and half years since the trauma of it all and not being able to conceive naturally again. Referral sent by doctor beginning of 2023 after years trying and I have just been waiting month to month to see if I will even receive a letter to see if they received my referral. It is mental torture. Surely there's a better system. I could not get through to anyone . Just moved throughout the switchboard losing my mind to find out an approximate time line. My doctor said it could be after 5 months however reading below I am totally devastated and disheartened to think this could now be years wait.
Surely patients should be made aware of this in order to try and make other arrangements or forget hoping for a miracle of the NHS. It seems like going private is the way the government would have this go, but sadly trying for a family shouldn't have to come at such a high expense.
Totally deflated to a never ending mental painful journey. Updates on a referral should be a bare minimum requirement to simply put people out of the misery if even it is a case of years to be on a list.
I totally feel the pain of others who have written about this service. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
"Miscarriage and accessing the infertility assessement clinic"
About: Altnagelvin Area Hospital / Gynaecology Altnagelvin Area Hospital Gynaecology Londonderry BT47 6SB Outpatients Department / Clinic 1 - Antenatal, Gynaecology, Urology Outpatients Department Clinic 1 - Antenatal, Gynaecology, Urology Londonderry BT47 6SB
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