"Insensitive attitude towards my dying mother"

My mother suffered a massive stroke and we were told almost immediately (after a scan) that she would die, probably in the next couple of days, but there was nothing that could be done. That in itself was handled well.

A few days later my wife and I were sat with my mother. Her breathing became increasingly shallow, and eventually the little gasps stopped.

Assuming she had actually died, I went to find a nurse and there were several stood around a desk. I quietly begged their pardon and explained that I thought my mother had died, and could someone come and confirm it. The lady who was obviously in charge just turned to me and said "pardon me, we are in the middle of a meeting". These were the only nurses on a large 30+ bed ward...

I would rather die in a field than have anyone go through that again.