"Family Support"

I was given details of Inclusion from my Drs practice when my son was involved in an incident where he used alchohol and drugs to take his life. He said he couldnt go on any longer.

Due to his situation and being homeless (split from partner) the plan was he stayed with me until he could get his life back on track. He went through several stages initially, and after a brief period of heavy drinking went back to work.

I called Inclusion and spoke to Vicki who explained exactly how the organisation works and the support it gives to the user and family support, I never knew there was anything like this support group.

Vicki called me every couple of weeks to see how I was coping and to offer support to myself and my son. My son didnt accept that he needed help, whilst I was relived to have someone out there that would listen and offer me their time, support and understanding.

Christmas came and I was confident that his life was getting back to normal but I couldnt have got it more wrong, it all went horrendously bad in the New year, his gentle nature was replaced by an angry violent man that I feared.

Vicki routinely called only to find me upset on one occasion. She gave me the advice and support to get through that very difficult time. I can honestly say I was terrified. She gave me a coping strategy and talked me through possible options. The police were involved which was necessary but upset me further.

My son whom I love dearly has made steps to sort himself out, he is making his own decisions, found accommodation, working and we are in contact. I wish there was a quick fix. I understand now more than ever that it takes time.

I know I have to step back and let him learn lifes boundaries and to regain his self respect but its hard and that again is where Inclusion are there for guidance and support

I have attended the Friends and Family support meetings which I was apprehensive about as I didn't know what to expect but have found them not only beneficial from all the information they give us. I find it emotionally regarding to meet others that are affected by their loved ones addictions and behaviours, it offers us comfort, we are not alone. This group is very therapeutic to our well being and understanding of why those we care about and why they behave in such a destructive way to themselves

I always thought I could cope with most situations and I know now that in this circumstance I couldnt. Vicki gave me a lifeline, a voice, someone that cared about my well being and I am very appreciative and grateful to her for her time and continued support.

I feel fortunate to still have my son in my life, at first though our relationship was beyond repair or any reconciliation. I hope it continues but I know I also have to consider my wellbeing too. Vicki made me realise that my feelings are equally important.

My sincere thanks to Vicki and Inclusion