"Medicated management of miscarriage"

After 3 years of trying to conceive I finally fell pregnant after IVF. Sadly, at 8weeks 5 days we were told our baby had died. This was confirmed at the EPU at the Southern general Hospital in Glasgow. I opted for medical management.

I still feel this was the right choice, however, the treatment I and my partner received during this time was inappropriate.

When I went to the ward for the first pill, the nurse was very unfriendly and treated me like a naughty three year old.

Yesterday my partner and I went to hospital for the final stage of the treatment. All nurses hardly said a word to us. When we arrived we were put into a room. Ten minutes later another nurse poked her head in and asked if I had brought a urine sample. I said I did not, was not told to. The nurse scowled and without a further word left the room.

I was then given the pills to insert myself. I appreciated the privacy we had after this but other women may find the fact that no-one came in to check everything was alright and progressing as expected a bit unnerving.

When I called the nurse to check the pregnancy tissue as asked yet another unfamiliar nurse came in without greeting, saying absolutely nothing and just took away the tissue. I found this very distressing as I had thought that they would examine it in the bathroom there and not take it away.

My partner went out and asked the nurse in charge to come and speak to us. I asked her what is happening with the tissue and said that no-one on the ward may understand this, but that tissue was our potential child. The first hope of a baby that we had after three years and that we had not consented to it being taken and disposed of by the hospital. The form saying this was in our patient file! Yes, the nurse said to me that she did not know this!

Few hours later she did bring us the tissue and I did appreciate that. But needless to say, we were glad when we could finally leave the hospital in the later afternoon. I was appalled about the in-compassionate and at times rude treatment and hope I never have to go through something like this again.