"Miscarriage support"

Me and my wife have gone through 2 miscarriages. On the first occasion we had no idea until we went to the scan and they couldn't find a heartbeat. They then sent us upstairs to the maternity section of the hospital and put us in a waiting room where there were parents with toddlers which really upset me at the time and still does thinking about it now.

On the second occasion there was some bleeding so they did a scan and there was nothing there on the scan. Yet again for the scan we were put in a waiting room but this time it felt worse because they put us in a waiting room with a lady who you could clearly tell was heavily pregnant. I can't believe someone could be so insensitive as to do something like that. That's the kind of basic thing that you shouldn't be getting wrong. 

Finally got a referral to the fertility clinic at the hospital and where do they have us go to? You guessed it the pregnancy section of the hospital again. As soon as you walk into the reception on the ground floor of the unit you see a big wall display saying you and your child? What child? I don't understand how people's feelings are not being considered here. Despite my wife losing nearly 3 stones and myself nearly 2 and a half stones we've been told we can't go past the investigation stage because the BMI is too high. Where is the support when we need it? 

We have never been offered any counselling by our respective GP practices and when we have asked we have been referred to a charity where they are expecting a financial contribution on every appointment. 

We would be good parents and I despair that everywhere we turn we get a door slammed in our face and our feelings are never considered.