"No real compassion"

One day in October I started to bleed at 11 weeks pregnant , I was told numerous times that It can be normal as I had a UTI. 

The next day I started passing clots of a large volume, after calling Ninewells Maternity Triage they then told me that again this is normal, a further 2 or 3 times I called, as did my husband but they wouldn't speak to him. Eventually I woke at 4am the day after that and I passed many more huge clots. Ninewells were called again and I was told there's nothing they can do. 

My husband then called The Victoria in Kirkcaldy who asked me to come straight into A&E by 5.30am I was on the Gynaecology ward awaiting a scan. 

I was still loosing alot of blood, the nurses and doctors were absolutely incredible with me and kept me at ease. I was then taken for a scan and it had to be an internal, the sonographer was extremely shocked that I was taken down there with the amount I was bleeding. She was lovely and told me that our baby had passed. 

The nurses etc again were fantastic especially the charge nurse who kept popping in to make sure I was ok. 

Four days after my first call I was taken for a further scan to ensure I had passed everything. I was taken by a porter. But as they took me out of the ward they asked if I was off to see my baby then was I excited. I had to tell them there was no baby. They laughed as they thought I was joking. 

My only problem was the lack of communication between departments. The porter should have already known. 

Also nobody ever really said they were sorry for my loss , they acted as if my baby was nothing there was no real compassion except from one nurse and the Charge nurses, I felt I shouldn't be talking about our baby as if he/she wasn't a human. I needed to grieve as did my partner and daughter. 

It is extremely important that miscarriages are spoken about and that departments actually communicate. 

I am also now aware that I should have been given a SiMBA memory box from the hospital but instead I was sent one from the charity after I had to ask.